We all have hair crushes myself included and there is nothing wrong with that. Trust me, I LOVE clicking that little heart on Instagram, leaving comments, sharing videos and so on. However, I think there is a fine line between admiring someone’s beautiful mane and wanting/longing/striving to have that mane by copying everything your hair crush does.
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When I started my hair journey I didn’t know what I was doing but every time I came across a natural with thick, big, bouncy curls my first few thoughts were: I need to do what she does, why does her hair always look that good, what products does she use and how can I get them. I think when we start to cross that line into hair envy, wanting to change what we have or chasing a dream that will simply not come to fruition is where the harm starts.
A lot of the times your hair crush is on their own trial and error, tweaking methods (sometimes off camera) and then they update you with the changes they had to make to fit their hair needs, or inform you that whatever they were doing wasn’t working for them.
Here are some of my views on the pros and cons of following someone’s routines/using everything her does:
Pros
- You get to find out about a new product you didn’t know existed.
- You apply products in a new method that actually works for you (who knew!)
- You learn something new about hair, particularly your hair.
- The products used are from a new start-up company and you get to support a small budding company.
- The routine might be something you never thought about and you find out your hair loves it.
- You strengthen the loving relationship with your hair (yes some of us consider it as a relationship)!
- You find that missing link that helps you complete that healthy hair routine you wanted.
- You get to hear/see reviews about products you always wanted to try out.
- You pass on what you learnt to someone else.
- As a new natural you are able to find out more about all the endless hair care possibilities out there.
Cons
- You are stuck in hair envy (unwittingly).
- You end up wanting to change your hair (perhaps subconsciously) because you don’t love what you naturally have.
- Your “rocky” relationship with your hair ends up getting worse because you didn’t end up with the results you expected (she had).
- The routine simply didn’t work.
- You spent a ton of money on products only to find out they will end up collecting dust in your black-hole unused hair product cupboard.
- Instead of taking your healthy hair routine one forward you end up going two steps back.
- You are following someone that is a (self-claimed) “hair guru” but in reality is only a guru of her own hair.
- Your hair crush is promoting a product that in reality is not one of her “must haves” but has been paid to make a positive review.
- You spent a ton of time and money chasing a dream instead of working with your own hair and nurturing it.
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At the end of the day, my opinion is that admiring someone else’s hair is not a bad thing however, admiring & loving your own should be your priority!
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