I may catch some flack for this but I think I’ve held my tongue for long enough. I’m not alone in this smoldering anger I have against some hair stylists as many have taken, quite angrily, to the vlogs, blogs, and websites screaming at Naturals who have become DIY’s for their hair. I overlooked it at first and just became annoyed after awhile. Now, I’m mad and feel the need to speak my mind.
HOW DARE YOU?!?
How dare you judge me for doing my own hair and choose to pass up your pricey salon as I head to my local Target to pick up my hair essentials. How dare you scream at me from Social Media outlets at my inability to grow my hair on my own through self trims, styles and washes. How dare you laugh, mock and ridicule me for watching YouTube videos for styles and techniques as I step away from the creamy crack and relearn my own hair. How dare you when you didn’t even tell me how bad the creamy crack was for my hair in the first place.
I’m mad because you went to school for hair. You learned about the chemicals and you touted yourself a hair expert. Despite that, never has one stylist EVER told me during my 22 years of perming my hair that I should not be using those chemicals. I had to learn that on my own. I’m mad because I had forgiven you for that but you could not leave well enough alone. Once you starting harassing me, yelling at me telling me I was inexperienced and downright wrong for doing my own hair I realized my best interest was never your concern in the first place. My money was.
I know you are a business woman. I know you are working to provide for your family but don’t do it at my hair and scalp’s expense. At least don’t make it so blatantly obvious now that your clientele has dwindled to the point you now call yourself a Natural hair stylist when you were slapping perm in my hair only a few years ago. What changed? The climate towards the creamy crack or did you REALLY have an epiphany and see the errors of your ways? Yea…I’m thinking it was the money.
So, I’ll forgive you if you leave me alone and let me do my thing. Revamp your shop or style or whatever to gain back your clients but stop the ridiculing and judging as many Naturals are quite successful at doing their own hair. Be happy black women are straying from the chemicals and just learn how you can become a valued part of our hair process again. Stop bullying us through facebook and other outlets telling us how stupid or wrong we are as I haven’t forgotten those 22 years of silence against the dangers of relaxers. Respect our choice to walk away from the chemicals and I’ll respect your business and profession.
Now…I’m done. I’m spent. I’m tired. Let the comments flow but remember I’m doing what’s best for my hair, scalp and skin. Are you?
Leave the Naturals alone,
*This is to the stylists who have judged Naturals. If you do not fall into that category this is not for you.