Is this true…I’m talking about the pic above….this post I found on Tumblr that originated on Twitter? I mean…have we gotten past this whole good hair BS along with LESS kinkier the better crap that has plagued Black women for far too long? Are we still chasing the curl dragon or trying by any means necessary to achieve a curl to love or feel good about going Natural? I sure hope so.
I ask because this whole Natural hair movement (which I’m sure started way before I jumped on board a little over seven years ago) has been about embracing, loving and nurturing our Natural hair! All the different shades we come in also has to reflect within our hair as well, right? No one is gonna have the same hair….me, my sister and my daughter have tightly coiled hair but it all looks differently and we family! None of us on this Natural hair journey have straight hair so we should all be lumped all together. It appears it’s a no go for some.
I’m in several Natural hair groups on Facebook and the questions still get asked about how to make their hair curl. There are still family members and significant others who don’t like Natural hair. There ARE STILL people going up to Naturals saying they have good hair and there is STILL some women saying they would go Natural if they had hair that curled!!!
I’m not here giving the answers on how this can stop nor am I here bashing women who don’t want to embrace being Natural for lack of curly hair. I am here expressing how I feel and felt when I saw this on Tumblr. I feel saddened especially since we have real things to worry about as black women. How about all the racist comments being hurled since November 6th at our president? How about worrying about making the rent, the mortgage, the light bill or the car note? Those are both better things we need to be concerned with and curly hair ain’t one of them. Ranting? Yes. Really mad? Kinda. This is just too sad to still be a concern.
Just wanted to get some stuff off my chest Naturals,
I do agree that there are so many people chasing the "curl dragon" or hate shrinkage or do not appreciate the Kinkier textures that are on their heads or others. A well kept mane is a well kept mane. 4z to 3a although the 4z definitely has more work in store for them. To me some styles are just not as beautiful if it doesn't have the thick dense kink of the afro texture but I am not hating on our Sisters with the 2-3 hair types. As long as we accept what is on our heads and embrace our very own texture, you can lust all you want but it ain't gonna happen without some chemicals and then we are right back where we started. I see all those same things as well as those hoping and doing all kinds of vitamins and things to achieve Waist Length Hair. Just something else that is all about the superficiality of being Natural and having a healthy head of hair.
I so wish my hair was thicker. I love the thicker styles and find myself being very jealous! That doesn't mean I hate my hair or don't find it beautiful. I love my hair, embrace it and wish others would do the same. I want thicker hair and longer hair but most of all I want HEALTHY hair. I want to be healthy in every way possible. Thanks for your wise words!
AMEN..we all have see something in another sisters hair that we like. I have THICK hair and I do wish my hair was thin (IKR Sabrina!). But I love what I have and I embrace every thick kinky curl strand on my head. My hair has been the healthiest it has been EVER..if it never grows an inch it is healthy and pffft with all the rest of the stuff.
You can't beat healthy! Thanks for the comments.
I tell folks all the time, if you hair ain't curling after you wash it, then it ain't gonna curl… Embrace what you have. the grass is always gonna be greener on the other side.
Hell, if you take care of your own damn grass it will be greener than the other side anyway!
I'm a teacher and I work in a high school. I actually had a young black girl come up to me while doing hallway duty with a TWA say "you inspired me to go natural". That blew me away considering that I don't know her. She sees me in the halls and in the building. My school has only 3 female black teachers and we are all natural. It's not about the hair for me, it's about accepting who you are and since we have centuries of racism and stereotypes to conquer I try to be patient. My grandmother's, grandmother was born a slave. Look at how far we have come from. Just be you and ignore and educate the ignorant. Stay blessed.
Truly inspiring! Only three black teachers and ALL are natural? I love it! Acceptance is a beautiful thing. I appreciate your wise words.