This is what I am used to. A teen daughter doing her teen thing. My daughter has added a job to her list of attributes along with getting ready for her first prom. My youngest is about to turn 11 next month and turning into a middle school typical boy. Farting is funny and annoying his sister is a full-time job. Why am I even discussing this? Well, I’m being bombarded with blogs showing Naturals having their first babies and dealing with new marriages. Sigh…I’m just in a different place.
It’s kind of funny to see these women discuss how they will raise their babies and how life is for them. I get it. You have it all figured out. What they fail to realize is that the baby will come with his or her own personality and since you don’t know what that is yet; you don’t know what the hell you are really getting into. These are PEOPLE you will be raising. I’m looking forward to their future posts for laughs. I was once like them…
I’m more in the category with a favorite blogger of mine, Slimwavy. She’s got her baby going off to college at the end of this school year. What a transition! My oldest will be a senior next year so I’m going through a transition as well. It’s kind of scary but no more scary then when that doctor put my daughter on my belly after giving birth. I remember thinking what the hell am I gonna do with this baby?!? Yea, reality was setting in but it really set in the first time I tried to go to the store with her. All the crap I had to bring with me let me know my solitary life was over. I’ve never regretted a moment since and never looked back.
So, enjoy your new journey as I enjoy the remainder of mine. I’m giggling at your attempts at potty training or getting the baby to sleep through the night as I deal with rolling eyeballs and demands of seeing them as a person. No matter what state you are in, you are in it for the long haul and let me tell you ….it’s a long rewarding one.
Stay lovely Naturals,
I am definitely with you on this. My baby is 11, my oldest will be 18 in May and my middle baby just turned 17. My fear now is an empty nest. I have been blessed with wonderful children and will be sad when they leave home. They are excited to start the new chapters in their lives. While I am excited to see how they will progress I am sad that I will no long be in their day to day lives.
That thought is in the back of my mind. The only good part about this is we have several years between our kids and they won't all leave at once. I'm excited about my kids growing up and becoming productive adults in society and I know that means moving on and moving away. *sigh*
I kinda fall into a different category. I married and had my son later then the norm (although this is becoming the norm). My husband is closer to 50 then 40 and I'm closer to 40 then 30 with a toddler and plans to have another in a couple of years. I'm I potty training, yes. Is it a big deal in my life right now, yes. It's where I'm at and even though my life is full of words like pee pee and potty I love it. I ran into a friend of mine from high school who has a child in high school. She's been married and divorced twice and she is struggling to support herself and her teenage daughter. I look at the impulsive decisions she made when she was young and I'm glad that I waited. This is where I'm at, chuckle in amusement, but please not in malice.
The chuckles are never, ever expressed maliciously. Never. I know Sabrina doesn't need me to speak for her but kids . . . no matter how old they are . . . take the patience of Job and a healthy sense of humor. It keeps every parent I know from taking their own children back to the department store for a refund. Much love, Jen, much love.
And yes, on waiting. All things in time!
No malice. My sister will be starting her family later this year or next year and she's 40. I just see life in a different light now that I have people and not babies. Raising children is hard at ANY AGE. Don't look to harshly on your friend and your perception of impulsive lifestyle. Some may say the same about you for waiting until now to have kids. I am glad I had my kids younger. Everyone has their own path and it may not agree with others. I'm just stating that some come with these notions of how easy it will be to make the child become a part of their family when it's more like the other way around. These little people turn our lives upside down but always for the better.
What a beautiful entry. I laughed, I cried . . . it was that kind of post. Just as I felt my eyes watering up, you mention rolling eyeballs and I snapped right out of it.
This post is so on point, I just had to slap my knee! And thank you for the shout out . . . it made me smile!
These little boogers have a way of growing on us and when we get used to them in our everyday lives they decide to leave us and pursue a life of their own. How are we supposed to cope? Well, I am a firm believer in being friends with your mate so when that time comes you are not looking at one another like….who the hell are you and what am I supposed to DO with you???
We will prevail I'm sure.
came over here from slimwavy because i too am one of those older naturals. my oldest is graduating from college on mother's day…hallelujah…
every time i read of newlyweds or young mothers…i think just wait, you will see, but never in malice.
Congrats on your oldest graduating from college. How proud you must be. Yes, we do know a little bit more than they do and as we snicker to ourselves it's not with malice but with memories of what we also went through and wondered how we would make it.