I’m sorry but it needs to be said. Some of us in the Natural haired community are driving a wedge between the whole lot with this constant quest to define, find, or make some damn curls in their hair! There’s no other way to describe this other than chasing the curl dragon. It is so unnecessary and a little disheartening…
I understand. You are a newly Natural or thinking about going Natural. You want or expect your hair to look a certain way. You want an instant halo of cascading curls that will make you feel better about yourself for taking such a drastic step with your hair. Having curls will shut your family, friends, and/or significant other up about going Natural. You can then shout in their faces that you have curly hair and NOT nappy hair. Oh, don’t act like you don’t know what the I’m talking about.
Now don’t get me wrong. Some of us have curly hair or coily hair. We get admirers saying all the time that they would go Natural if their hair would do that but why the hell is that even a point to be made? Why does it have to curl for you to embrace it? OK, OK…maybe this post isn’t supposed to be that deep but the point still remains…stop looking for curls if you don’t have them. Here are a few pointers to remember:
No, there are no products that will make your hair curl.
No, the curly girl method will not make your hair curl.
Yes, you can do twist out and braid outs to get a wave or a curly pattern.
Yes, you will still be beautiful without curly hair.
I hate to be the bearer of bad news but it needs to be said that not everyone has curly or coily hair. If that’s the ONLY reason you went Natural you will be sorely disappointed. There is too much emphasis on this and we gotta stop it. Loving what is growing out of your head is the object here as well as getting away from chemicals. Our hair is so versatile so just try the thousands of styles that YouTube is full of. You would be surprised.
So don’t be mad at me for stating the obvious but once you come to terms with yourself and your hair you will be a happier Natural.
Loving all of you Naturals,