Before I knew what the heck I was doing with this Natural hair on my head, detangling wasn't a real thought. You can imagine how many chucks of hair I was yanking out of my head. I wasn't aware of such products as KC Knot Today and how important Slip was. Hell....I hadn't even heard of slip before I started doing some real research on my hair.
I look back to when I first moved to Denver and stopped damaging my hair with relaxers and started damaging my hair with ignorance. Going Natural doesn't mean you will become an expert and it most certainly doesn't mean you will do all the right things. I'm STILL learning and anyone on this journey and willing to be honest will say the same. It's a day to day, week to week, month to month process on doing the right thing by your hair.
Now back to the present or to the near present. I'll say around 3 years ago I thought I actually knew a thing or two about this journey I was on. I had been using wonderful products for a while, I was no longer wanting to flat iron my hair and I was even reading CurlyNikki and Nappturality.com on the regular! But somewhere, somehow, for some unknown reason....I decided to comb the living hell out of my hair.
I was detangling every time I co-washed. I co-wash on average 4 to 5 times a week. Yes...yes....I was detangling just that much with a wide-tooth comb. I think I came across an article (can't even remember the blog) discussing how tender you should detangle your hair and how the main objective of the blogger was to allow her hair to grow and keeping as many hairs on your head. That was important to maintain and achieve length. Others commented on the article and discussed how often they detangled and I realized I detangled more than any of them!!! It was an eye-opener.
Bad habits somehow become a norm, a ritual, a habit. I started this post to discuss detangling too much but it's pretty much become a post on bad habits and how they can take over a very good idea and turn it into a nightmare. I no longer feel bad about all the hairs I lost since I've noticed all the wonderfully strong hairs I've saved. I also see the growth I secretly wondered why I wasn't achieving. I now know my over detangling was one of the culprits. Hey...as long as you learn the lesson it was so worth the journey.
Be kind to your hair. Treat it like it were your very fragile and beautiful great-grandmother who needs tenderness and love. With that in your mind you will keep as many hairs as possible on your head like I'm trying to do now. Don't rush, don't put off, don't skimp on what is necessary to achieve your Natural hair goals. It will all be worth it.
Steer clear of bad habits Naturals,