The picture above explains more than I can ever imagine. I see the little girl in the background doing her own thing and her mother frustrated. It's pretty representative of what's going on in my house right now.
Now, I understand I have a sixteen year old daughter, but when I look at her I see the little girl in the picture above with the big Afro puff on top of her head. I see the little girl who didn't question my judgement nor wanted reasons for my actions. I see my baby girl. Is that so bad? Yea, it kinda is. She's 16! She's got her own tastes and dreams and wishes and style....she's not me and I'm not her. I think you can see where this is going.
She's NOT me and I'm not her. That normally doesn't cause us many problems but it has in regards to her hair. Now, don't get me wrong. She's quite happy being Natural. She just wants her hair flat ironed WAAAAY more than I would like and this issue finally came to a head a few weeks ago.
I didn't expect to push my 'no heat' philosophy on her but I did limit how often she applied heat. It wasn't enough to her. I thought a couple (or more) times a year would suffice. I mean...her hair is getting so long and gorgeous but just like me she deals with tons of shrinkage! When her hair is straight it's BSL. When curly it's almost APL. Of course she likes the longer length and hates shrinkage and of course this caused problems for us and we had a huge blowout over her controlling her own hair. Ouch....I wasn't ready for that.
You can read the remainder of this post in tomorrow's Part 2.