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Thursday, January 13, 2011

Too old to be Natural?


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OK, I turned 40 last year and it's only been five years I've been relaxer free but only two years I've been completely Natural and nurtured my curls.  Now, I was little in the 70's and by the time I was a teen relaxers were  BIG BUSINESS and living in humid ass Mississippi meant you had a perm if your mother loved you at all!  I've never really known my Natural hair and this Natural hair journey has been wonderful and enlightening. 

Now, it seems that the majority of the Newly Natural are YOUNGER than me.  I have no numbers or stats but I'd guess the majority are younger than 30.  It might even be younger than 25 but like I said....not real data, but I'm pretty sure that the majority of the Naturals are way younger than my ass.  They are stylish, skinny, confident and lovely.  I am stylish (for 40),  NOT SKINNY, gaining confidence daily and feeling kinda lovely on most days. 

I don't wanna see this Natural explosion as fashion driven but even if it is, I'm here to stay.  When I get on Natural hair websites I feel like I'm babysitting!  I'm on forums with college students who have no kids and think spending $30 on a jar of hair gel is a crime against nature!  Where the hell are the older Naturals?  I understand I'm coming into this game in the 7th inning but DAMN!

I honestly don't feel I'm too old to be Natural but I do feel a little left out in some blogs and styles.  Nonetheless, I'm here and I'll continue to look at the pics on the blogs of the younguns as they shake their skinny asses in too tight/short/sheer clothes in the clubs they live in till the wee hours of the morning.  I ain't clubbin no more and I'm yawning by 11:00 pm as well as getting brats to bed after homework, bath and dinner.  I'm a Natural....just a mature one and happy to be in the company of the young ones....

Just wanna see more of us sometimes.
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6 comments

  1. Come here gurl! *gives you a big hug* YOU ARE NOT TOO OLD TO BE NATURAL. I'm gonna be 40 this year myself. No kids, (married just 2 years, still trying though). I know what you mean, although I've been natural for about 20 years. I chopped all my hair off back in college, and this was before Zhané so you can imagine the looks I got. I just grew my mane out about 4 years ago and really had no idea what to do with it. I, like you, scoured the web, looking at blogs, YouTube videos and all kinds of message boards to get ideas. Some were cute, and some were, well, not really appropriate. Now I've come to find that two or three styles work really well for me, and I can do them with my eyes closed at this point, but it took awhile.

    The other thing about going "natural" that is important to me, is using products that won't harm my hair or my body. (I'm trying to stay young-lookin' for as LONG as possible). That's why I started my blog Savvy Brown. Everyone and their mother has jumped on the "natural" bandwagon, but many of the products we use are harming us and causing things like fibroids, breast cancer, ibs and other issues that the kids don't have to deal with yet.

    I can relate to what your talking about, but I have fun sharing info and exchanging ideas and styles with the younger naturals. I just feel I'm living proof to them that you can be natural and fly no matter WHAT your age.

    - Savvy

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  2. Well, I don't know the percentages, but in my world, there are more over-30 naturals than there are 20-somethings and teens. Maybe it's region-specific? I don't know. I live in the Northeast, so things may be different here. Even in church, I'm one of the younger naturals, and *whispering* I'll be 50 this year.

    I do find it to be true, in general, that those blogging and otherwise communicating online tend to be younger, but they have been online all their young lives. Many of us more mature naturals are just not as technologically-connected, in addition to the fact that our family and career responsibilities have increased exponentially since we were in our 20's, but I really don't feel left out at all.

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  3. You may be right about the geographical differences. I do find more younger Naturals here in Denver. I agree that more younger Naturals are on the blogs and websites discussing their journey and when I was looking for info I only found them online. I just wanted to give the older Naturals a voice on the web.

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  4. Savvy, thanks for the love! It can be lonely sometimes when you read some of the blogs but I'm coming into my own and feeling more comfortable with my hair and my style. I'm a wash and go queen, but it's works for me and you know how important that is. At this age, easy is always better if it's looking right!

    You are right about how many are going Natural as if it's a fad. I'm in it for the long haul and know there are quite a few just like me and you out there. You have been on this journey much longer than I, but I'm proud of my 5 years plus.

    Love your blog and love the fact we've got some Naturals born before 1980 out here!

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  5. Wow, this post is right on time! I turned forty last year and I am enjoying my natural hair. Many of the blogs, YT videos,etc. seem to be geared toward the younger naturals. I wonder if it may be that many of them have more time to share their journey, hmm (just a thought). Keep rocking your natural hair and rock it with confidence. Those of us who are above 35 will have to try to network more. I get so excited when I discover over 35 naturals!

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  6. Victory, it does appear only the younger women are embracing Natural tresses, but we're here and I just wanna let others know about it. They probably do have more time becuase blogging is time-consuming, but since I get great pleasure from doing this blog I make it priority and find most time to work on it late at night when the family is asleep! Now, I don't get much sleep but I figure I'll sleep more when my kids are grown and out of the house!

    We do need to network more and start some meet ups. Trying to get one started here in Denver.

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